Watching What You Say

I´m going to have a little bit of a rant here, so before I begin, a bit of good news is we´ll FINALLY be moving into our new house in the next 2-3 weeks, hopefully we´ll find out tomorrow the date to finalise the sale!! My pinterest House folder is growing by the second and i´ve already mentally spent more money than we´ve got so it´s safe to say i´m pretty excited to be in our own space again!

Now here comes the rant...

At least once a week I/we get asked the question "When are you going to have kids?" Now, i´m a person with A LOT of patience but ENOUGH IS ENOUGH, it has to be the least thought through, most insensitive question i´ve ever been asked in my life.

I´d like to say to the people who ask this:

• You don´t know if we want to have children or not.
• You don´t know if we CAN have children or not.
• You don´t know if we´ve spent the last year trying, but not getting pregnant.
• YOU DON´T KNOW ANYTHING...

I obviously don´t say this, i´d like to, but I don´t. I usually do one of the following:

• Smile falsly.
• Say something along the lines of "Well, we don´t even have a house yet..." (Officially can not say this anymore)
• Change the subject. 

The truth is, i´d love to have a baby, we´re planning on trying as soon as we´re settled in the house but i´m not going to tell every Tom, Dick and Harry my business, what am I supposed to say? "Well actually i´ve spent the past year and a half with the alarm on my biological clock stuck on ring and I can´t find the snooze button!" or "Well actually some days I can´t even face to see children because I want one so bad, and isn´t it ironic that i´m a teacher and i´m with them all day?!" 

You should never ask someone when are they going to have children, you don´t know what that person is going through in their life in regards to that subject. I don´t go around asking single people "And, so when are you going to get a boy/girlfriend?" It´s insensitive, not every single person wants to have a partner, just like not every person who has a partner wants to have children.  

A little word to the wise, i´m getting close to snapping. Yesterday after being asked that question twice in the space of half an hour I plucked up the courage to say something i´ve been dying to say for a long time, I didn´t go full on crazy but the conversation kind of went like this:

Them: "So, now you have a house, when are you going to have babies?"

Me: "Do you know how often we get asked that?"

Them: "Yeh but when I ask, i´m only joking..."

Me: "Yeh, EVERYONE is only joking, it´s not funny..."

It stopped the conversation and we were able to carry on talking about ANYTHING other than the B word. Maybe I should pluck up the courage to speak my mind more often! 

That´s so Hygge

Probably you´ve heard, or better, seen, the word HYGGE flying about lately, it seems to be everywhere. But what exactly is it?!

Hygge (Hue-ga) is a Danish word that doesn´t have a direct translation, it´s more a feeling. Think everything comforting, comforting foods, hot drinks, candles, lying on the soca watching a film with a blanket and popcorn on a cold, rainy day. Think dinners at home with friends, walks in the woods, wooly socks, open fires, flowers, hugs... Just everything that gives you that amazing warming, comfortable feeling inside. THAT is Hygge.

Since watching the Channel 4 series Scandimania a few years ago I fell in love with all things Scandi, I even took a solo trip to Copenhagen just before moving to Spain and i´m dying to take Mr. Millennial there.

So when I heard about Hygge I had to know how I could infuse this Danish way of simple happiness into my rather hectic Spanish/British life. As we´re about to buy a house (in one month and counting) i´m rather obsessively thinking about decorating it, and of course i´m planning on making our new house very Hyggelig, complete with candles, blankets, warm colours, soft lighting, bringing the outdoors indoors and of course lots of Hyggelig food!

Keep an eye out over the coming weeks where I´ll be sharing more of my decorating ideas and see if you can spot the Danish influences.